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The Alpha Female and her Hair

Recently I began taking interest in my natural hair, its health and its growth, and may I confess? It’s not an easy job!

Wow! It is tasking and a tremendous workload.

I started paying attention to my hair health and growth August 3rd this year.

My natural hair status was always dry, always shedding in large volume of hair loss after combing it, stagnant hair growth, itchy scalp was a daily routine not to mention the alopecia I had to deal with on my front hairline.

My natural hair was a mess!

It’s been three weeks now and during that three weeks, I have been using;

1. Castor oil, coconut oil, jojoba oil, rosemary oil and peppermint oil for hair growth oil after washing off the hair mask;

2. Aloe vera juice, fenugreek powder, alma powder, onion juice, garlic juice, castor oil, coconut oil and peppermint oil for hair mask, them I shampoo after leaving the mask for 3 hours;

3. Aloe vera juice, rosemary water, castor oil and peppermint oil mixed together and stored in a spray bottle for leave in conditioner.

This has been my daily and weekly routine since August 3rd to August 27th and I can see differences.

1. My hair became darker.

2. Itchy scalp just magically stopped.

3. Shedding of large volume of my hair just drastically reduced.

Now, can you imagine what my hair will look like in three months if I continue with this routine?

I have no idea! But, I will continue to be consistent.

I was thinking of getting a hair transplant for my hair line but let me be patient and see how this routine goes till October 2020.

Atleast, give patience a chance to work its own magic💃 and in no time, my hair will be like this👇👇👇

Some tall dream, huh?😄

Well, let’s see how it goes.

I hope this helps and empowers The Alpha Female struggling with itchy scalp, hair loss and stagnant hair growth.💪🙂

Stay safe out there Alphas🥰.

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Simple ways to destroy Coronavirus and win.

We just learnt from Dan Lee Dimke, PhD on how to fight back Coronavirus and other flu related virus that attacks our immune system and win💪💪💪.

He suggested the Cold-Arrest Procedure which has been successfully tested in 55 countries.

In his book titled “Conquer the Common Cold and Flu” Dr. Dan Lee Dimke stated insightful procedures on how the Coronavirus (Covid-19) and other related viruses like SARS, MERS can be destroyed.

He stated in his book that Coronavirus and other related cold and flu diseases are extremely fragile but thrive well in cold temperature and freezing environment.

The virus has an achilles heel! The coronaviruses have remakable vulnerability that is immediately exploitable.

Coronaviruses die in higher hot temperatures!

Virus destruction using mild heat is now widely used in the manufacture of medicines and vaccines to fight against the coronaviruses and other related viruses under the Covid family.

Any patient suffering from Coronavirus family diseases should simply:

Breathe in Hot Air!

The hot air melts the virus until it disappears from the respiratory system.

Rising temperatures create a hostile environment for most respiratory viruses and they die off quickly when exposed to heat.

Now the question is can humans survive in Cironaviruses killer temperature?

The answer is YES!

1. Humans are used to spending over an hour in Suana baths.

An infected person can stay in the bath for one hour, inhaling hot air and heat from the suana bathroom as a treatment from the virus.

The heat temperature in the suana bathroom should be set to 140° – 190° F.

2. Exposing the naked body to hot sunlight. This is not new as humans do this at the beach or pool side all the time in their bikini and shorts. This method seems to be the easiest and cheapest way till date in treating coronaviruses.

3. The use of hand-dryers. Humans have been using hand-dryers to dry their wet hair since hand-dryers were invented.

The infected patient should do the following when using the hand-dryer:

a) Sprinkle water on their face and spray water upwards into their nose.

b) Hold the hand-dryer 10cm or 4 inches towards the wet nose and switch on the dryer facing the nose. What the patient has to do is to keep inhaling the hot air the dryer provides for an hour.

Hot air flow causes the water sprayed into the nose to evapourate while allowing heat and steam to flow directly into the nose and sinuses.

Ensure the hot temperature is raised to 133° F for effective result.

Please note that the Cold-Arrest Procedure also kills other cold-related common cold viruses like SARS-CoV-2.

Start using the Cold-Arrest Procedure at the first sign of common cold symptoms like uncontrollable sneezing, feverish conditions caused by cold, cough and cattarh.

4. Lastly and most importantly, we should all discipline ourselves to eat healthy.

What we put in our mouths can affect our immune system. Cut the carbs, eliminate the sugars and calories from your diet and focus on eating healthy.

At this critical time, eating fruits and vegetables can save your life! Eating your greens, fruits, nuts and peas keep the doctor away and boost your immune system to fight against viral infections and diseases.

The World Health Organization and Centre for Disease and Control had already given the world wise counsel on:

a) always keeping the hands clean by washing and the frequent use of hand sanitizers.

b) keeping the dirty hands away from the face, eyes, nose and mouth until the hands are washed or sanitized.

c) wearing nose masks

d) staying 2 inches away from sick people with the flu.

But mostly importantly, eating healthy to boost your immune system will help a great deal.

Credit to Dan Lee Dimke, Ph.D on his book “Conquer the Common Cold and Flu.”

We are grateful Doctor.

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Nigeria battling Coronavirus.

What is COVID-19?

Coronaviruses are zoonotic, meaning they are normally transmitted between animals and people. The COVID-19 is a disease caused by a new strain of coronavirus that has not been previously identified in humans. It was first reported to WHO on the 31st of December, 2019 in Wuhan, China

What is the source of COVID-19?

Scientists and public health officials are working hard to identify the source of the SARS-CoV-2 which is the virus that causes COVID-19. The initial transmission appeared to be from an animal source, but there has been person-to-person transmission in countries.

The virus can spread from one person to another, most likely through droplets of saliva or mucus

Has anyone in Nigeria gotten infected?

Yes. The first case in Nigeria was confirmed on Friday, February 27, 2020 in Lagos in a business Italian traveller who arrived Nigeria on February 25, 2020 and became symptomatic on February 26, 2020. Contact tracing is ongoing to identify everyone who has come in contact with the confirmed case.

What is Nigeria doing to control the spread of the disease in the country?

The Government of Nigeria, through the Federal Ministry of Health, has been strengthening measures to ensure Nigeria is prepared in the event of an outbreak.

The multi-sectoral Coronavirus Preparedness Group led by NCDC has been activated to a national Emergency Operations Centre to coordinate response activities. NCDC is working with State Governments to identify and trace contacts of the confirmed case, in Nigeria.

The Port Health Services Division of the Department of Public Health has heightened screening and surveillance at the ports of entry, particularly for returning travellers with travel history to countries with ongoing transmission in the last 14 days. Residents of the Nigeria Field Epidemiology and Training Programme (NFELTP) are working closely with staff at Port Health Services to screen, review and analyse the forms used for screening at points of entry. This is also for contact tracing when needed.

Does Nigeria have the capacity to diagnose COVID-19?

Yes. There are four laboratories with the capacity to test for COVID-19 in Nigeria. The NCDC National Reference Laboratory; Lagos University Teaching Hospital; Irrua Teaching Hospital; and African Centre for Genomics of Infectious Diseases in Ede, Osun State. They are all in the NCDC molecular laboratory network.

Health officials are advised to call 07032864444 for sample transportation and related advice if they have a case that fits the national case definition.

What is the national case definition for COVID-19?

Suspected Case

Any person (including severely ill patients) with any of the following symptoms: fever, cough or difficulty in breathing who within 14 days before the onset of illness had any of the following exposures:

• History of travel to any country* with confirmed and ongoing community transmission of COVID-19 OR

• Close contact with a confirmed case of COVID-19 OR

• Exposure to a healthcare facility where COVID-19 case(s) have been reported

Probable case

A suspect case for whom testing for COVID-19 is inconclusive or for whom testing was positive on a pan-coronavirus assay.

Confirmed case

A person with laboratory confirmation of SARS-CoV-2 infection with or without signs and symptoms.

If you have a patient that matches the case definition above, please contact NCDC to arrange for sample collection and testing on 07032864444.

Where are the treatment centres in Nigeria?

In the last one month, NCDC has conducted rapid assessments of potential treatment centres. This assessment focused on identifying gaps and developing plans to rapidly ensure that we are prepared to manage all cases. Treatment centres are located in the five priority states with international airports; Lagos, Rivers, Enugu, Kano and the Federal Capital Territory. Healthcare workers from these treatment centres have been trained on how to manage COVID-19 cases using approved guidelines.

What should I do when I return to Nigeria from a country with a confirmed case(s) of COVID-19?

If you have travelled from any country with ongoing transmission of COVID-19 to Nigeria in the last 14 days, you should stay indoors and avoid contact with other people. Please follow this advice even if you do not have symptoms of the virus. If you develop symptoms during this time, immediately contact NCDC on 07032864444 or 0800-97000010 (toll-free)

What are the symptoms of COVID-19?

Ø Cough

Ø Fever

Ø Breathing difficulties

Unwell people who have recently travelled from any country with ongoing transmission of COVID-19 should immediately contact NCDC on 07032864444 or 0800-97000010 (toll-free).

Am I at risk of catching COVID-19 from a package or products that arrive from countries with a confirmed case(s)?

Currently there is no evidence to support transmission of COVID-19 associated with imported goods or packages countries with ongoing transmission. Till date, there is no known case of COVID-19 in Nigeria associated with imported goods.

Should I stop my children from going to school?

No. The current situation in the country does not warrant a shutdown of daily activities. During a pandemic, various measures are instituted depending on how serious the illness is and how easily it is spread from person to person.

At the moment, there is one confirmed case in Nigeria. Therefore, measures such as school closure or closure of large gatherings, are not required. Persons with persistent cough or sneezing should stay home or keep a social distance, but not mix in a crowd.

Is there anything a person can do to avoid becoming infected?

To reduce the risk of infection or spread of COVID-19, members of the public are advised to adhere to the following hand and respiratory hygiene measures:

• Wash your hands regularly with soap under running water and use hand sanitisers frequently

• Cover your mouth and nose properly with tissue paper when sneezing and/or coughing and immediately dispose of the tissue in a covered waste bin. After this, wash your hands with soap and water or use hand sanitiser

• You may also cough into your elbow if disposable tissue is not available. You are strongly advised not to re-use handkerchiefs

• If you become sick while travelling, you should avoid close contact with other people while you are symptomatic and cover your mouth and nose with a face mask

• Avoid close contact with anyone showing symptoms of respiratory illness such as coughing and sneezing

• Healthcare workers are always advised to observe standard infection prevention and control measures when attending to patients and take a travel history

What can businesses do to protect their staff?

Businesses have an important role to play in protecting their employees. Employers are advised to circulate NCDC’s public health advisory on COVID-19 to all staff. Encourage sick employees to stay at home if they are unwell. Ensure routine cleaning of high contact areas such as toilets, door handles, telephones. If staff have travelled to any of the countries with ongoing transmission, they should be advised to self-isolate for 14 days.

*Countries with ongoing transmission as at February 28, 2020: China, Republic of Korea, Italy, Iran, Japan

Connect Centre

Toll Free Number: 0800 9700 0010

Whatsapp: +234 708 711 0839

SMS Number: +234 809 955 5577

Call: +234 703 670 8970

Credit to NCDC

https://ncdc.gov.ng/news/item/232/?t=frequently-asked-questions-on-coronavirus—29%2F02%2F20

The Woman wasn’t created as an afterthought.

By Kingdavid Chinaeke Ofunne.
The Authorpreneur.After Church, I decided to unwind at an outdoor bar by the pool with two close friends.We were having a great conversation about my book Water and Fire under the serene view and beautiful sights when one of my friends after reading out loud a chapter of my book that talks about feminism and gender equality, had a very solid and unusual perspective and made his opinion verbal.Initially, I thought it was absurd and probably the wine talking, but he presented his case with so much stew, I was left with nothing but accolades even though I refused to become a believer.”WOMAN WAS CREATED AS AN AFTERTHOUGHT!”He said.All eyes were on him now and with the flair and charisma of a seasoned orator, although not a Cicero or a Martin Luther King, he continued.”So God said after all had been created, it is not good for the man to be alone so let us make him a helper.””True,” I replied. “So, how does that make the woman an afterthought?””You see, she wasn’t in God’s original plan. She was an afterthought, but don’t get your dicks hard yet boys,” he said. “It wasn’t in a bad way, she was a perfect afterthought, to help the man spiritually, mentally, psychologically and even financially.”The woman was created as a helper to support the man and not to rival or equal him. You see God had to kill the man to create her, that’s how serious and special she is.” He surmised.”Ha, Bros which way?” the other friend present, protested.I kept quiet, sipping my Johnny walker and listening, waiting and watching.”Allow the man continue I said””Thank you able Authorpreneur.” he replied and poured a drink from another bottle resting idly on the table.”In God’s original plan, there is only man, that’s why we have only references to the son of man and not daughter of man as recorded in the Bible.””Wait,” the other friend interrupted. “You said God killed the man to make the woman, are you saying Adam died for Eve to be made?””Yes sir,” he said. “In the Bible when ever the word ‘and he slept’ was used, it meant death. When Lazarus died Jesus told his disciples first that Lazarus was sleeping but when he noticed their ignorance and inability to comprehend spiritual wordings he had to be direct with them.
So when the Bible recorded that Adam was put in a deep sleep, my brother Adam was dead until Eve was created from his rib.””Point one I said. Go on.””This one strong.” the friend said.”Thank you, he continued. God said let us make man in our own image and likeness meaning the idea was a man and not a woman but after He created man, he realized that the man needed a woman to complete his destiny and so the woman was formed as a helper to the man.Maybe there were women in heaven before then o, I don’t know, maybe the first man had no penis, and it was given to him after the woman was formed, I don’t know, I know there are no recorded female angels and I also know that in God’s original plan the woman was not involved, she was an afterthought but not in a bad way, rather in a perfect and timely way so all these feminists out there should stop fighting and calling themselves daughter of man as opposed to son of man or Kings as opposed to Queens because they are unique and specially made to be a supporter and a helper in any capacity, be it in the capacity of a ruler, leader and follower, the woman was formed to help and support not rival and compete with the man in the place of relationship and marriage.He sat down feeling satisfied and justified.I dropped my glass and looked at him.”As an afterthought I added, if there were no female then why did God create the animals in two’s, both male and female it was recorded that he created them both. Doesn’t that suggest that the woman was not an afterthought but a Masterplan that was meant to be implemented during the first Creation.”Again the bible recorded that God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created man, both male and female.”I Kingdavid Chinaeke Ofunne Authorpreneur oppose the notion that the woman is an afterthought, she is rather an upgraded version of God’s first and original plan which included her from the beginning.”She was a timely intervention that needed everything to be on ground and perfectly made for her to be introduced.God waited and used the man to do the heavy work, name the animals, tend the garden and even the tress and fruits, then he introduced the main surprise package as He had intended from the very beginning.Look the woman was and is God’s Masterpiece.He didn’t create her from dirt and dust like the manHe created her from flesh and bonesHe created her from very goodEverything God created was good until he created man, then it was very goodThe woman was created from very goodThe woman was not created from the man, she was created of the man!!!Point twoShe was created to cure man of his loneliness and compliment him, not to be under him as these misguided pastors and misogynists want us to believeSee, God said let us make manMan here means mankind or human kind not manhoodGod is a communityA community of three, the TrinitySo his creation will always reflect his natureWhen he said let us make man in our image and likeness, he meant man and woman alike.Man and woman ruling as equals, was and is God’s intended plan, just like the TrinityThe woman was created of the man but that does not mean she is lesser, rather it means she completes him and when the man and woman marries, they become one again.Both are Incomplete without the other!!!The woman was created as a helper just like God is our helperSeveral scriptures cites God as our helper, Exodus 18:4, Hebrews 13:6, John 14:26, etc… Does it mean God is lower or lesser than us?No, helper means a lot more than mother of Children, home manager, kitchen deputy or house wife!!!Okay Bible scholars and Christians believed God created the best last, after all he made man last as his crown of creationIf we are to go by that argument, shouldn’t the woman then be the crown of crowns, considering she is actually the last to be created?The woman therefore is the crown of crowns in the creation storyShe is the bedrock of creationThe icing of manShe is God’s climaxLook…the woman is and was never an afterthought.She was God’s winning card all along before Jesus came in flesh.Men and women are ontologically equal, none is subordinate to the other.Point three!We laughed and drank some more and watched the blue sky turn yellow from the scorching harmattan sun which wouldn’t allow us enjoy a great outside time and since we didn’t come with our swimming trunks or maybe both of them were fat and too overweight to swim, I alone jumped into the pool and swam with the expertise of a fish, allowing the cool water massage my tension, trigger an erection and finger my emotions. I almost climaxed at the beauty, peace and serenity of the swimming affair.Before some daughters of Eve came to spoil things for me with heavy backsides and pointed nipples.Today isn’t the day to sell my book Water and Fire to them, today I just wanna hangout and enjoy myself with my guys.Please it’s SundayLead me not into temptationThis is love making in sweet serendipity for me.This is not the original version, this is the revised edition.#MotivatingTheAlphaFemale 😉P.S. I will appreciate it if you Kindly follow my blog, place your likes and comment your opinions as we motivate the Alpha Female in us.

Nollywood’s repulsive representation of Nigerian women.

The way Nollywood movies in Nigeria presents the black woman should start giving us cause for concern.

Nollywood presents the Nigerian woman:

To be weak

To adjust to sufferings

To be one with molestation

To be a complete housewife, useless to herself

To be the sole burden bearer of a marriage or family

To be a woman who begs a man to love her out of pity

To teach a woman that the only way to achieve something in life is to be married

To teach a woman to put a man first before herself.

Not to aspire greatness for herself but to reduce herself to the level of a man’s poverty.

Nollywood teaches Nigerian women that snatching her fellow women’s husbands and destroying her fellow women’s marriages is commendable.

Nollywood glorifies poverty and demands a woman must suffer with a man before she can live a happy life with him.

Nollywood teaches Nigerian women to remain in and endure abusive relationships and marriages with a shitty boyfriend/husband until the man changes for the better even if the man kills or deforms her in the process of waiting.

Nollywood movies makes a Nigerian woman to be ashamed of her sexuality.

Nollywood movies display women as disposable and expendables.

Nollywood teaches our women to be maids and nannies to a grown-up male in a relationship/marriage as a test for getting a marriage proposal reward.

Nollywood movies shames the Nigerian woman and objectifies her as masturbation tool or prostitute.

Nollywood glorifies sexual molestation of underaged girls by men.

Nollywood movies advocates for infidelity and breaking of marital vows to an acceptable norm and for a Nigerian woman to be okay with it.

Nollywood does not teach young ladies how to be an Alpha Female at their young or old age.

Nollywood teaches women that the only way they can be great is when they sell their bodies to the highest bidder for whatever they want in life.

Nollywood loves to implant the Nigerian woman in the midst of drug addiction and domestic violence.

Nollywood movies love depleting the reputation of the average Nigerian woman.

Nollywood teaches women that they can make it in life if they involve themselves in anything diabolical.

Nollywood displays an average Nigerian woman as a threat to any child that is not her biological child.

I could go on and on.

When most Nollywood scriptwriters hold the pen to write Nollywood movie scripts, this is how the Nigerian woman is presented nationwide and globally which is indeed a shame and a repulsive appearance of Nigerian women.

Enough is enough!

This is not who a Nigerian woman is. It is a false and repulsive representation of Nigerian women by Nollywood movie directors and scriptwriters to boost what goes into their bank accounts.

It is time for a change on how the Nigerian woman (or Black woman in general) is displayed to the world.

Professional script writers should stop being lazy when making research about the Black Woman and present her to the world with a different narrative.

The Nigerian woman (or Black woman in general) is a superhero.

She may not have super powers like telepathy or flying in the sky but she is a complete Alpha Female with mental, social, physical, financial, intellectual and psychological abilities to multi-task and complete any kind of role given any environment or situation she finds herself with available resources at her disposal.

She is a force to be reckoned with.

She produces results!

She is a gender whose abilities are not to be ignored.

We should stop subjugating and disrespecting them and start recognizing their best potentials, then announce her great potentials to the world.

We should start uplifting and empowering the Nigerian woman for greater things.

We should start challenging them for better roles in Nigerian movies (or African movies) like the great work done in Black Panther movie by Ryan Coogler and stop giving false representation of what the Nigerian (or Black) woman represent in totality.

It is a new century and this is a call for immediate change.

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Sometimes, the Alpha Female wants to be alone.

Sometimes, I get jealous of the Alpha Female who lives alone?

Gosh! You women are floating in paradise😊.

The serenity.

The privacy.

The protected boundary.

The sanity.

The peaceful feeling.

The beauty of the restful moments

And more importantly,

The freedom!

How blessed you are😊❤

You can come back from a busy day, kick off your shoes, take off your clothes and walk around the house in your full naked self!

You can pour yourself a glass of wine in your nakedness, light a cigar, put on the music of your choice, spread your naked body on your favourite couch or sofa and relax peacefully, listening to the music as you puff out smoke from your cigar (for those who smoke).

You can turn on your television and watch the channel of your choice or your favourite porn video while you masturbate and explore your sexuality.

You can sit naked on the couch as you read your novels, magazines or type on your computer with a glass of wine on your table.

You are at liberty to scatter your wardrobe, rearrange it and scatter it again with no one scolding you for being unkempt.

You are not playing the grown-up by setting good example for your little ones to follow on how you put things in order.

You can sleep naked!

You can play the music loud!

You are just FREE to enjoy the transquility alone.

What a paradise🥰🥰🥰.

I don’t have that luxury unless my daughter and mother are on a long journey😄😄😄.

I am always the first to scream when my daughter doesn’t hang her jacket, arrange her shoes properly, arrange her wardrobe, clean her room, take out the trash and do her domestic chores.

I stay away from the television when she is watching cartoons or her favourite television shows on Nickelodeon.

My laptop is off limit when she is browsing the web to make research for her school assignment and attending her online coding classes.

You can imagine!

It is so tough being a grown-up!

You will monitor your little ones and still monitor yourself to ensure a good example is imitated.

Gosh! I’m in hell!🤣🤣🤣

Can these little ones just grow up quickly, become independent and leave our houses and stuff for us?

Their growing up seems to be staggering and our patience is wearing thin, innit? 😒

We are not getting any younger for goodness sake 🙄🙄🙄

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The Nigerian morality when it comes to Sex.

In Nigeria where I live; if you are the gender with the vagina; you dare not talk about SEX!

By jove! You will have your head on a spike if you talk freely about SEX.

They will crucify you.

They will look at you different and see you as cheap!

They will judge your entire being as a sex worker and put you in that class even if you are old and matured enough to be having sex.

It is a battle here in Nigeria.

As a woman, you keep these emotional and sexual feelings to yourself. You dare not discuss it with other women, even with your man.

Although, as our world advances, things are changing due to women empowerment and the advocacy of feminism but it is a staggering progress.

An example is a blog post I made two days ago titled:

“You need a little pampering.”

I posted it on my personal Facebook timeline.

You can imagine the kind of comments I got.

👇👇👇

“I am so disappointed in you for making such a post.”

“That post ought to be a private matter. You are not supposed to post it publicly.”

“You didn’t tell me you are a slut. How much do you charge for a night?”

“This is disgraceful. I can’t imagine what your daughter will think of you after reading such promiscuity.”

“I just read your post on your wall. Gosh! I can’t tell you how ashamed I am on your behalf. Let me concentrate on my job. When I get home, I am going to give you a piece of my mind.”

“I admire your guts! Post more of this often.”

“You mean you will dump him when you get bored of sleeping with him. Honestly, what do women want?”

Guess what I was doing….

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Yes!! It is that hilarious to me.

Here I am, a matured grown arse woman in her late-thirties, a mother who is no stranger to sex been cautioned on how to approach sex matters differently by grown arse men who are not virgins themselves and probably cheating in their present relationships/marriages with a woman like me.

Ofcourse! Laughing is a befitting reply.

What would you have me do? Be nasty or insolent to them in my reply? Educate them that I am old enough to discuss sex matters on my Facebook timeline?

What are they? Twelve?😄

That would be a waste of my precious time.

It is the environment I live in that should take the blame. Not them in their infinite wisdom😄 and certainly Not me!

I blame the environment who created a garment of shame for grown-ups to talk about their emotions and sexual experiences to other grown-up adults.

This is a war we can’t win in what I call the Nigerian morality.

The Nigerian morality shames you for having sexual genitals, knowing what they are used for and condemn you for even thinking about using it or actually using it.

The Nigerian morality judges everything sexual as unholy even in the confines of marriage.

The Nigerian morality is too godly to think or talk about sexual tools or toys, genitals and sex education.

Oh the garment you are manipulated and blackmailed into wearing to cover your shame for thinking or talking about sex not to mention what your sentence will be if you actually do SEX😄.

You will be surprised that most grow-up adults actually censor the word SEX like this “s**” when they are trying to communicate in writing.

Oh yeah! It is that depressing!

Religion is another ideology I blame eventhough sensitive.

We grew up been told sex is a sin, thinking about sex is a sin, talking about sex is a sin and actually doing sex is a sin.

You will be damned if you think, talk, teach or practice sex. You will be damned if your don’t when at a certain age you neither have a spouse or a child.

The limitations are endless.

This is why alot of Nigerian women don’t even understand their sexuality.

This is why alot of Nigerian women see sex as an obligation in a relationship or marriage instead of an enjoyable experience.

This is why alot of Nigerian men don’t understand foreplay or romance but will rather go straight to intercourse.

This is why Nigerian grown-ups are still ashamed of their nakedness.

This is why alot of Nigerian adults are in lonely relationships/marriages with their spouses.

Communication about Sex is always replaced with shame, shyness, fear and pretense.

If a woman in a relationship openly and sincerely talks about sex, talks about her sexual desires or talks about something casual about sex education, her man will think she is a cheap slut and starts suspecting every man she talks to or smiled at.

She becomes a suspect for all shades of infidelity.

Voicing out your emotions as a woman regarding sex is a dangerous endeavour.

It is really pathetic and that is something I hope will change among women.

Contrary to popular belief, I really hope Nigerian women aren’t being monitored by sperm-possessors under the gender-conforming systematic apparatus that sexualises vaginas in Nigeria.

Women should just be left alone

To just BE

To just LIVE

To just BREATHE

And

To just Stay FREE!

Women are HUMANS not a specie to be monitored, silenced, shamed and disrespected because they engaged in a sexual discussion that a regular grown-up usually engage into.

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You need a little pampering.

I had the best head game on Saturday.

Nigga was sucking my vagina and clitoris and praising his maker for creating such a sweet meal for him.
I just recovered from the head game this morning after 11 hours of sleep and I decided to post the experience of how I shouted halleluyah all through that sermon.

Phew! Stressful month of January disappeared after hours of exotic blowjob & romantic romping in the sack. (My sillyness in bed🙄).

Then he took extra time to massage every part of my body with his big hands.

I live in heaven😋💃😊.

Dear Women, in all thy getting, make sure you get a man that not only understands your womanhood but knows how to romp in the sack with you.

You seriously need a little pampering😉.

I think I’m going to whore with him again on Valentine’s Day, every other weekend and twice on Sunday till I get bored.🤣

Oh! Did I mention he can really spoil a girl with his money? That is more important when whoring around with these niggas🤣🤣

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Dear Baby Girl

Dear Baby Girl,

Do you know how powerful you are? How everything you represent as a woman is making you a force to be reckoned with? How brightly your light shines?

Yes! I am talking to you ma’am.

If you know how powerful your feminism is, how powerful your brain can store information, how powerful your instincts & intuitions are and the strength you carry, you will never let anyone with any ideology trample on you ever again. You will never allow anyone call you weak anymore!

You are a force to be reckoned with.

A whole you can handle a generation and outlive the challenges that comes with it.

A whole you can make a man and tear him to pieces.

A whole you can create a generation and build them up with or without a man.

A whole you can pick a man from a gutter and turn him into a king.

A whole you!!

The power you carry scares even the devil and weak laws with shallow ideologies. Some of the ideologies created in the world today was to reduce you as weak just to limit your shine.

Have you ever noticed that the moment you refused to be in that cage created for you or your ideas or you refuse to accept the conditions of limitations against your womanhood or you’ve made the choice on your own on how you want your life to be, that is when the slut shaming & body shaming start pouring in like a flood?😄😄😄

That is a cry of failure to subjugate your entire being as a woman!

You carry in you big plans, big dreams, tall ambitions of a powerful you.

By jove, how powerful you are!

What am I driving at?

Never let anyone you know or just met create limitations on your path to greatness.
You are just too powerful to be limited.
It is time to start embracing the strength of your feminine spirit and the powerful force of your womanhood.

Dare yourself!
Test your tenacity!
Challenge your strength!
Push your limit!

I tell you Baby girl, YOU WILL BE AMAZED!
Flaunt your feminism and your womanhood.

Talk.
Laugh.
Get angry if you are provoked.
Play.
Club.
Voice out your feelings.
Complain if it bothers you.
Protest if it hurts you.
Fight, scratch & bite to defend your life & honour.
Be materialistic.
Eat.
Drink.
Have kids.
Be that gold digger.
Go shopping.
Enjoy dating and relationships.
Marry what is in your books as the ideal man for you…I repeat, for you!
Buy that car.

Build that house.
Make that money & spend it all.
Make it again & enjoy it! It is your sweat!
Walk up to that guy you have a crush on.
Date that man you admire.
Dump that guy who has nothing to offer you but pain.
Get that degree.
Do that business.
Travel.
Write that blog.

Write that book.
Live that life you want.

Breathe.

No individual or ideology have the right to dictate to you how you should live your life as a woman.

You were not born to be controlled, dominated or subjugated.

You were born to be “free”
Be free!

Life is not your cage!

Life is your adventure.

Enjoy it!

Enjoy being a woman.

Enjoy your life as a human being not as a slave.

Reject that weaker vessel tag and wear your own brand new tag of strength. You are not weak!

If you can produce a new life in your womb, you can build a new world.

Don’t limit yourself.
Expand your coast!

BE who you want to be.
DO what you want to do and
HAVE what you want to have.

The sky is too wide for you to spread your wings and fly. Too large that you don’t need to be dragging another person’s stuff or becoming another person’s photocopy.

You can become, do and have better.

Do you! Always.

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The Woman and Her Money.

Hello everyone.

Welcome to my blog!😊

Has anyone noticed anything about a woman and her relationship with money?

That relationship is deeper than the deepest ocean on the planet!

The world has painted our gender as Money Lovers! Gold diggers! And somehow, that kinda stick to us for all eternity😄.

Some people use money as a substitute for getting a woman’s love while some basically feel once a woman is given money, you get her full attention.

Come to think of it, which woman alive, hate money? Which woman frowns when a credit alert reaches her phone? Which woman doesn’t want to have money or hold money or keep money or invest money or use money?

Does that kind of woman that doesn’t love money even exist? 🤷‍♀️

The only problem between a woman and her money is what she does with it.

Alot of women had made alot of money mistakes after making lots of money.

They wasted it all away.

It is not about the pounds, the dollars, the euros, the yen, the rand, the naira or any currency. It is more about a woman’s relationship with herself and how it affects the way she spends her money.

This lecture is more about financial counseling to help women gain knowledge on how to make the right and smart financial choice at all times with her money.

As a woman, what should you NOT do about your finances:

Don’t beat yourself up for making poor financial choices in the past. It’s done and it’s history.
Don’t think that things will not change in the future. The future is always pregnant. It will surely deliver.
Don’t expect everyone to be financially responsible like you.

Now that you know what you should not do about your finances, what are you supposed to do instead?

You have to identify exactly what influences your money. In this case, you make money and spend money. You just have to recognize those factors that influences your money-making and money-spending decisions, then manage the circumstances surrounding them. How do you make money? After your job/business, do you have a PLAN B just in case?
You must take responsibility! Be a responsible and accountable manager for your earnings and spending. You don’t spend carelessly and earn little. That is foolish.
Make daily smart financial decisions that increases your purse.

Suggested and Proven Solutions on what you can do with your finances:

Think of alot of business ideas that you are capable of doing to achieve the best financial results for you.
Work with tenacity on your career/ business, whichever one you are generating the highest income.
SAVE. This is hard but you need to discipline yourself to save. Put some money aside from your earnings and dump in an investment, fixed deposit or mutual funds. Somewhere out of reach.
Write a will. Anything can happen to you at anytime. Just make sure your children know exactly where your wealth is.
Always have a PLAN B! Plan B is like a leverage you hold on to, if all else fails.

I hope this works for you as you age gracefully.

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